RED FLAGS
Welcome to the Red Flags page. Here, we don’t sugarcoat. We talk about the real, raw warning signs that can save your life, your freedom, and your peace of mind. If something feels off, trust that feeling. Let’s break down the biggest red flags you need to know.
1.Dangerous Client Behaviors
Watch out for clients who try to push boundaries from the start. If they won’t respect your rules, your rates, or your comfort levels, that’s a giant red flag. Anyone who tries to negotiate your boundaries is showing you exactly who they are. Men will always show you exactly how they feel about you just pay attention, to their actions, their body language, their words, their energy, if their energy in the room shifts or they feel cold and calculating (please don’t ignore) it’s the most dangerous kind of client.
2. Signs You’re Being Set Up (Sting Indicators)
If a client is oddly insistent on skipping your usual screening steps, be extra cautious. In places like Utah, stings often come with clients who refuse to share any personal info or rush the meeting. If it feels off, trust yourself.
3. Energy Red Flags
This is where your intuition shines. If someone’s energy feels heavy, chaotic, or just plain wrong, don’t ignore it. You’re not imagining it. Sometimes the strongest red flag is simply that gut feeling that something is off. Honor it.
4.Safety Red Flags in Hotels
Pay close attention to your surroundings. If a hotel feels off, unusually chaotic, or your instincts start whispering that something isn’t right, listen. Notice excessive loitering, unfamiliar faces watching too closely, or staff behavior that feels overly attentive or intrusive. If something feels wrong, leave. Trust yourself. Walking away is always the right choice.
5.Communication Red Flags
Watch for clients who refuse to communicate clearly or try to move conversations off your chosen platform too quickly. If they won’t verify in any way. If they get angry when you set boundary or try to guilt – trip you, that’s a huge red flag. Respect is non – negotiable.
6. Boundaries Being Pushed
Anyone who keeps asking for “just this once” exceptions is showing you they don’t respect you. If they push for unprotected services, try to haggle your rates, or insist on secrecy that makes you uncomfortable, walk away. Your boundaries are there to protect you.
7. Trauma-Informed Red Flags
If a client is dismissive of your feelings or tries to downplay your concerns, that’s a red flag. You deserve to feel safe and understood, not minimized. Your experiences matter.
8. Things That Triggered Your Arrests (Utah-Specific)
From your own experience, share what you learned about Utah laws and stings. Let others know that recording every session can protect them. Share how to recognize vice squad patterns and how to avoid the traps you faced. This is your wisdom — pass it on.
I’ve been caught in three sting operations in Utah, years apart. Solicitation charges get enhanced every time, and that’s how I ended up with a felony. If I had recorded my sessions, I could have proven what really happened. They’re not your friends, and officers will lie about details to get the arrest.
Trust your instincts every time. At minimum, record your own sessions for your safety. Never let a client hand you the money — put it down and step back. Don’t stay in motels that law enforcement targets; some locations are known hotspots.
Pay attention to parked cars — two guys sitting in a regular car, watching the building or the parking lot, is often a sign of vice. They’re always in plain clothes and unmarked vehicles. Watch your surroundings, limit posting while you’re in the same city, and avoid staying anywhere that feels off. Honestly, if a city is known for heavy stings, consider not working there at all.
Trust yourself. You know more than you think. And remember: you are never alone here. The Naked Truth Project is your community, and we’ve got your back.
If you’re unsure what to say or how to respond when red flags appear, visit Safety Tools & Scripts for practical language you can use.